2018, the year of loving yourself fiercely, practicing self-care and being compassionate with yourself! Easier said than done though. I have to admit that talking a big game is my forte, however, following through, not so easy (these are my confessions… lol). With the New Year January is filled with all these plans on personal development and just generally chasing “happy”, the best way we have read how. Then comes February and we start losing steam, fall back into old patterns and life becomes this treacherous journey, filled with mountains that we carry on our shoulders once again. Have you ever wondered why this happens? Do we not value ourselves enough to be consistent with the things that we want for ourselves? Is standing in our own way something we should be content with, however small or big the impact is?
We have work targets; we generally meet for our employers. School targets, for those still in school like myself. We have things we do to ensure our partners are okay, the relationship is thriving. Friendships we are willing to go above and beyond for and all other external things we work hard for. However, when it comes to ourselves, why are we okay with leaving ourselves hanging? I know for sure I work hard to make those around me comfortable, whether in big ways or smaller ways such as reflecting on how I handle particular situations. But when it comes to myself I do not have the same vigor.
Your value and how you measure your value should come from within before seeking it outside. I say this because sometimes, external people only see as far as they are conditioned to see. People believe what they choose to believe based on their own internal struggles. Compassion for others is not necessarily the first response you will get; judgement trumps most if not all ideas that come from external forces. Basing your value on how other people view you should not be a priority, learn from it, but do not let it define you. How you feel about yourself should be your focus. What do you think of yourself? What things/ traits about yourself make you uncomfortable? How can you change those things and get to a point of contentment?
Focusing on other people only takes away from your own personal growth. Do not be content with placing your value on other people. What should come first is whether you actually like yourself and actively changing the parts you do not like, for yourself!